Misogyny, Trolls, and Xhamster.
I just read an excellent opinion piece about internet trolling and misogyny. I can testify that I experience this very thing ALL THE TIME, not just here on Xhamster, but elsewhere on the internet whenever I write. If I am not outright sexually harassed (after my argument is totally overlooked) I am talked down to like I'm a fucking c***d. In fact just last week while commenting on CNN, one man asked me if I was "PMSing." On a porn site like this one, I've come to expect degrading remarks and largely ignore them in a majority of cases. But the problem is far more extensive and not confined to porn websites.
Let me make it clear that I've met a lot of terrific men on xhamster. The fact that those men have elected to regard me with respect and on equal grounds, even on a website which by its very nature promotes the objectification of women, demonstrates a level of maturity and kindness I truly do appreciate and admire. On the other hand, I've met some pretty nasty women on here, too, who were actually downright evil, so I am in no way male-bashing in writing this.
I'm not going to rehash everything that was said in the article. I do want to emphasize one major point, however. The author of the article basically asserts that much of the harassment women experience on the internet comes from insecure men whose world view of male superiority is shaken when they come across strong, opinionated women. These men live in a make-believe world in which women were somehow meant or created to serve and please men. As such, when they come across a woman who is superior to them in any way, they often either reason away her remarks, overlook them by sexually objectifying her, or they "politely" interject their superior views to guide the silly, irrational woman back on course. The latter one is what particularly annoys me.
Here is the article in question:
http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/08/01/misogynist-trolls-have-an-agenda-and-its-not-lulz/
Let me make it clear that I've met a lot of terrific men on xhamster. The fact that those men have elected to regard me with respect and on equal grounds, even on a website which by its very nature promotes the objectification of women, demonstrates a level of maturity and kindness I truly do appreciate and admire. On the other hand, I've met some pretty nasty women on here, too, who were actually downright evil, so I am in no way male-bashing in writing this.
I'm not going to rehash everything that was said in the article. I do want to emphasize one major point, however. The author of the article basically asserts that much of the harassment women experience on the internet comes from insecure men whose world view of male superiority is shaken when they come across strong, opinionated women. These men live in a make-believe world in which women were somehow meant or created to serve and please men. As such, when they come across a woman who is superior to them in any way, they often either reason away her remarks, overlook them by sexually objectifying her, or they "politely" interject their superior views to guide the silly, irrational woman back on course. The latter one is what particularly annoys me.
Here is the article in question:
http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/08/01/misogynist-trolls-have-an-agenda-and-its-not-lulz/
11 years ago
But I need to ask, What are you doing to my XHmaster? I came here for the sex, but stayed for the intelligent discourse - it's quite unexpected... and appreciated.
We wonder aloud if there's a Mysterogony!
Good blog posted by a genuine person. Such a rarity on here, sadly.
Anonymity allows for some while, and especially to say and write!
And any site on the internet, even beyond the site type X Hamster. And unfortunately, the trolls are not that mysogines. They can be racites, hateful, violent.
And, yes, these are real people we sometimes deviate a backhand but are there, very present in our society.
I'm afraid that in a few years, they are still present and still virulent. Difficult to provide a single response.
Yes. You would.
Misogyny, race-baiting, regionalism, socio-economic status -- all can be effective means to throw an opponent off balance. However, I endorse avoiding them because they are crude and primitive. You would reveal more weakness in yourself than you would gain through this obvious and predictable exploitation. I also never engage in discussions about equality of the sexes. It is such a pointless argument. To me sex is an arbitrary dividing line for individuals. It would be like participating in a discussion about how blue eyed people are equal to green eyed people. I wonder how Margret Thatcher or Golda Meier would react to my first sentence in this comment. I don't know what they would say, but I am fairly confident, it would end in my humiliation. One thing I admire about those women is that they were not concerned about championing women's rights or fight for some vain idea of egalitarianism, they were too busy wielding power on the world stage in service of their countries. I would follow their leadership into the bowels of hell.
Just my humble opinion
Why oh why cant men see that equality with women in every area of life is a benefit not a threat As to the pernicious activities of trolls and the like Iam speechless but sadly recognise that angry impotent men will always find a way to bully and belittle women The intellectual violence is almost as bad as the physical violence encouraged in tv and the cinema in the name of dramatic entertainment .Congratulations on your stand and for highlighting this dark corner of the internet
http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-23488550
Its a shame that we have to put up with these ignorant men.